Attitude Adjustment for a More Peaceful Home

Have you ever heard, “You are the thermostat of your home”?

Nick sends up extra praises that my actual body temperature isn’t the measuring stick for the air flow in our house. My body always feels warm but I am always a little chilled. That is why, even in the middle of a Florida summer, you will catch me wearing a hoody in my house. It’s just cozy. And apparently 74 degree air blowing on me feels like I live in Antartica.

But rest assured, we aren’t talking about thermostat in regards to temperature. We are talking about attitude.

Sometimes what you see on the surface is just that… shallow. Any pleasant family picture you’ve seen of us, most likely, was a result of bribery or threats. To gather our household and have everyone simultaneously have an agreeable happy attitude is simply 1:1000.

Jesus says, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27


I am an enneagram 9.

I do not follow personality test often but when this became all the crave, I took the test. And, boy oh boy, it hit the nail on the head. All the good and bad things about myself felt summarized in a few short paragraphs. For those who don’t know much about enneagrams (join the club), here is a recap of my “type”: The Peacemaker.

I don’t just enjoy peace. I crave peace. I need peace. Peace makes me breath easy. And conflict makes me cringe (see, I told you there are bad parts). With that being said, when there is conflict and strong emotions in my home, I tend to feel out of control and high-anxiety.

Another fun fact: I am raising a very, very strong-willed child. One who has been diagnosed with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) and an unspecific mood disorder. Each and everyday is a roller coaster of big emotions.

Over the years of taking my son to therapy and reading/researching until my eyes crossed, I’ve learned a lot about managing your own emotions and remaining calm, even in a tornado of irrational feelings. Nick and I have learned the hard way that you cannot discipline every kid the same.

  • To Scottie (our 2 year old), you can use a strong voice and her lip quivers.

  • To Everett (our 5 year old), you can stand up with your hands to hip and he knows you mean business.

  • To Leland (our 7 year old), you can use an air horn + flaming dart + steel rod + massive grounding efforts and he still feels confident enough to present his argumentative case.

There have been many heated battles within the walls of the Mendenhall home. Yet, I don’t want to lead with yelling, irrational consequences or inconsistent expectations. It’s hard hard hard. I’ve said on more than one occasion how unrealistic it is to expect me to remain CALM and COLLECTIVE 24/7. I am a human and my big emotions trigger … and I want to lose my mind!

Anyone out there relate?

But a sure fire way to maintain a peaceful home is to adjust your attitude. You (whoever is reading this) have the responsibility to be a peaceful thermostat to your home. You have the power to turn up the heat or down the AC. The way you respond can impact everyone around you.

Everything you do or say has a ripple effect. Tough reality, huh?

That is why we’ve compiled a list of verses that can help us keep our attitude at bay. With God’s help and intervention, we can keep a peaceful home.

Click here to download that list of verses: HERE

Want a peaceful home?

  1. Start with you. Your mindset and attitude.

  2. Meditate on how God can help you generate calm and peace.

  3. Be the thermostat in your home.

TAKE ACTION: Tell us if you adjusted your attitude this week. Share about it and hashtag #lovefastliveslow and we will see your post!

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